Here's a pretty cold hearted weblog.
http://dysfunctionaladopteereunions.blogspot.com
The writer has tried to provoke some controversy by posting on discussion_groups related to Adoption.
The anonymous blogger's stance seems to be that adoptees and birthmothers who search are selfish and oblivious to the lives of the presumably good adoptive parents.
I hope the author realizes that He or she is helping to spread hatred and contempt, thereby worsening the problems of adoption.
I can't imaging any Reunion which was not fraught with problems, nor can i imagine what it would be like to confuse the situation with a public reunion like a television show.
For counter balance Here is the column of responses to the Website.
I honestly Feel that this person feels hurt by an intrusive reunion. But Ive heard this kind of response before, and it is a pre-emptive strike on anyone connected to adoption reform.
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Yes ... that IS pretty depressing ... and another one that doesn't allow comments ...
ReplyDeleteActually I guess the bloody thing is, at the very least, a semi-spam-blog.
To make a way overlong story short I was an "open adoption".
I think everyone involved simply needs to come to grips with the fact that an adoption almost by definition is a rough situation and everyone ought to try to do their best to keep things from getting any rougher if at all possible.
I agree.
ReplyDeleteFew adoptions are 'good.' For me I starts with the Fictitious birth certificate. I have a cousin who was adopted By his Grandparents. At some point they told him that his sister was also his mom...He's not the only person I know who had that particular secret in the family.
But youre right aknowledge the awkwardness and try not mess it up more than it is already.
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My birth mother and stepfather adopted 3 children and had a host of foster children come in and out of our home for about 10 years.
ReplyDeleteWhen they split, the adopted kids went the way of the wind. Luckily I was out the house when they split, I was 18, but the youngest girl went with my stepdad (unfortunatly), the other girl went to a cousin and eventually moved in with a friends family from school, and the boy went into foster care (at 10!). After the only family he ever knew since 7 moths was us!
I eventually took legal cstody of him, when he was 12..he was incorrigable...I tried as much as I could to help and take care of him, but all he ever wanted was to go home to his "mother".
He is in jail now. for murder.
yes adopting can suck.
Thanks for proving my point, and sending more visitors to my site.
ReplyDelete--You-know-who.
You-know who,
ReplyDeleteWhat was your point?
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